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Copyright 1965, 1994 Paul Stirling. All rights reserved.

Paul Stirling
CHAPTER NINE

MARRIAGE

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remained single. She declared herself against husbands, and absolutely independent. But no man would lightly take on a woman who had four times failed to produce a son, not to mention responsibility for the four failres. Hayip (B) (p. 144), her father, farmed her land as a share-cropper, and regarded her as an annexe of his own large household. She certainly relied on him for her outside contacts. An older woman in Sakaltutan, who had married out of the village had lost her husband when her son was an infant, and had returned with him to her father's house, remaining there unmarried. In 1950 she was living in her son's household. One other widow in Sakaltutan and three in Elbashï were bringing up families.

Most marriageable widows remarry. Unless they have a number of children, they are much in demand; and women often remarked that life without a man is hard. They may remarry within the circle of their husband's kin. In the genealogies, widows often married their husband's brother, occasionally polygamously. In two cases, barely adolescent boys had been married to an elder brother's widow, and in one case to mother's brother's widow. Equally, a widow may return to her father, who will arrange for her remarriage. Her children may remain with her husband's kin, or with her own natal household, or may go with her to her new husband, according to circumstances. The villagers are aware that according to the Seriat a child belongs to its father, but should remain with its mother until it is seven, but they seem to attach remarkably little importance to formal rights in this matter. This is understandable. No one wants daughters, and other people's sons, even a brother's, are a limited asset. They are likely to cause trouble over inheritance, and in any case to leave the household at their most useful point - at marriage, when their labour, their children, and their obedience should serve to build a joint household.

Polygamy is still socially acceptable. Successful polygamy is a source of prestige, but it is also a frequent subject for jokes, and a polygamist is close to ridicule. It appears to be becoming rarer. It is not of course legal, and polygamous marriages are never registered with the State. Only four cases existed in Sakaltutan. I know only one man with a healthy and fertile first wife who

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